You are Wanted & Loved

Mother’s Day isn’t always quite the Hallmark holiday full of flowers and greeting cards for many.

In fact, in no other role in life is there more judgment and shaming than motherhood. Today, the best gift we can give to one another is the gift of full acceptance.

To those with Mother’s who listened, loved and nurtured you, who have a confidant and friend in her- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with mother’s who were absent, detached and unknown, who feel the sting of independence- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with mother’s who were abusive, damaging and manipulative, who inflicted wounds into your soul- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with mother’s who were obsessive, shaming and perfectionist, who could never live up to the standards- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with mother’s who are complicated, hard to gauge and difficult to manage- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with mother’s who’s mind is gone, and struggles to remember her own name- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with mother’s who have passed behind the veil into eternity, who you wish you could call one more time- you are wanted & loved. 

To those injecting, tracking, swallowing pills, and praying for a miracle so you can become a mother- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who have tried every single fertility treatment, cried innumerable tears in loneliness and still cannot bear children- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who have carried life within only for it to slip away unexpectedly, snuffing out your hopes and dreams- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who held and loved and looked into your baby or child’s eyes, only to close the lid to their casket- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who handed their children over with hopes someone else could love them better, who never got to see them change and grow, who may not know you exist- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who had to make the choice to terminate a baby’s life, who cannot even admit it aloud for fear of judgment- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who are being both father and mother to children, with little support and mounting exhaustion- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who are filling in as mother’s to struggling children, foster kids or orphans, taking in their hearts and their hurts- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who don’t want to be a natural mother but still nurture others in countless ways- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with odds stacked against you, with diagnoses and appointments, with little empathy or understanding- you are wanted & loved.

To those with no support, far from home, with no one to call or to come babysit and give you a moment of relief- you are wanted & loved.

To those with littles undertow, who have endless wants and needs, require constant supervision and direction- you are wanted & loved. 

To those striving to do and be the best mom, to give your children kindness, affirmation, safety and fun- you are wanted & loved. 

To those who manage their homes, have little glory or recognition for “just staying home” or educating your children outside the norms- you are wanted and loved.

To those with mouthing back young adults, who think you couldn’t relate to their angst or apathy- you are wanted & loved. 

To those with adult children who look back on those years with regret, and wish to change your mothering moments- you are wanted & loved. 

We are all Beloved. Happy Mother’s Day.